Episode 43: Grief Will Help

"We calm down when we are witnessed. And then we can allow ourselves to be carried."

Don't turn away from this week's episode about grief. Grief will help. If you're a longtime listener of this podcast, you know that grief is not a novel topic. In this episode, Buffy digs deeper into the devastating magic of grief; and how we can shape it into art, link it to a collective empathy, and use it to help us find our breath.

"Grief is the price of love. Loving someone means that one day there will be grieving. They will leave you or you will leave them. The more you love them more you grieve. Loving someone also means grieving with them. It means letting their pain and loss bleed into your heart. When you see that pain coming, you may want to throw up the guardrails,  sound the alarm, raise the flag, but you must keep the borders of your heart porous in order to love well. It is an act of surrender when we are brave enough to sit with our pain. It deepens our ability to sit with the pain of others. it shows us how to love them." -Valarie Kaur, "See No Stranger"

Buffy references Allen Ginsburg, Valarie Kaur, and Anne Lamott. You can view Melanie Bilenker's work here, and Marcy Stagner's work here.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host). Leah Vogt (Guest). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Daniele Alling (www.ritualmade.com)